Our Philosophy
Do Not Let Fear Rule Your Decision-Making Process
If you are going through a divorce, you are probably full of fears. You might be scared of losing your children, losing your money, losing your home and losing your sense of who you are. Mediation addresses all of these fears just as well – or better – than other forms of conflict resolution. We keep the process simple and very focused on addressing your concerns. We do this by thoroughly examining the facts and and issues, then weighing all of your potential options in terms of both the emotional and financial impacts on you and your children both now and in the future. We understand your fears and address them head on.Be in Charge of Your Own Destiny
Divorce is one of the hardest situations a person will ever go through. You will have to make choices that will impact you and your family for years to come. Moving forward, it is imperative that you and your spouse determine how you can secure a future rich in opportunity. A third party – such as a judge or lawyer – can't possibly know what’s best for you and your family. In mediation, we provide you with the guidance and the tools to be in charge of your own destiny.Be Smart, Not Angry
Put your energies towards achieving a fair settlement. In order to do this, you will need to:Stay focused. Mediation emphasizes listening and communication skills which will help both of you in creating positive solutions to your conflicts. The mediation process tends to shift focus from punishment to problem solving.
Understand the key issues to be resolved. Sometimes, the key issues to be resolved in a divorce settlement can become obscured by side battles and postural positions. This only delays the pain and does not help move you forward in your life. We will help you find ways to discuss the real issues, and leave the emotional issues, and hard negotiating postures out of mediation.
Get the information necessary to make tough decisions. We will help ensure that you understand the facts and information upon which you will be basing your decisions. This will allow you to be better equipped and comfortable in reaching a smart and informed resolution to your conflicts.
Communication is Key
The most important element to a fair settlement is communication. Mediators specialize in helping divorcing couples communicate – even if lack of communication is what caused the marriage to break down in the first place. Coming out of mediation, many couples feel that they communicated better during the divorce process than they did in married life. That’s because mediation sets the tone for cooperation by helping you focus on issues, not emotions.If You Have Children, Keep Them the Focus
We will help ensure that your children's best interests are at the forefront of all settlement decisions by making yourself their advocate. As well, you will need to learn how to communicate with your children's other parent. That is an absolute truth. While you might not be friends post-divorce, mediation will provide the tools to work together for the well-being of your children. We will help.