When a relationship comes to an end, people are often so deeply hurt that they feel they will never be able to forgive the other person. This wouldn’t be so bad, but, many people who cannot forgive their wrongdoer end up getting stuck in destructive psychological and emotional patterns.
Divorce is a shock to the system. Even if getting divorced is your idea, when it finally becomes a reality you may find yourself even more unbalanced than your spouse. The following are common emotions experienced by people going through a divorce. This list best describes the order of emotions from the perspective of the “receiver” (the spouse who is told “I want a divorce”), but is also relevant for the “deliverer” (the spouse who requests the divorce).
You find it hard to believe this is happening to you.