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The divorce rate for middle aged and older men has increased significantly since the 1990s. Every third person who gets divorced in the US is older than ...

Getting a divorce anywhere – but particularly in Northern Virginia --- will be one of the most important financial decisions of your life.

Not only ...

Ever wondered why so many middle-aged and older women put the kibosh on their marriages after so many years? Wouldn’t the financial and personal upheaval ...

In this video Robin walks you through how long settling a divorce will take.

In this video Robin tells you what expenses child support is intended to cover.

In this article, I will guide you on how to smoothly move from the decision to separate, through settlement, and ending with a judge signing your Divorce ...

If you are getting divorced, but don’t want all the emotional turmoil and high costs of a contested battle, the first thing you need to do is start ...

Divorce is never an easy process. It makes you feel all sorts of emotions, it can cost a lot of money, its hard on children, and it can take up all of ...

Robin goes through the steps on how to calculate child support in divorce for business owner.

Robin helps you understand how retirement assets are divided in a divorce with a small business.

Robin walks you through handling business debt in a divorce situation.

Robin shares insider tips on how to protect your business during a divorce.

Robin shares best practices for minimizing business disruptions during divorce proceedings.

Robin digs into the complexities of calculating spousal support when a divorce involves a family business.

Robin shares professional tips on how to value your business for divorce purposes.

Feelings and emotions are an important part of a relationship. Without them, it's tough to connect, communicate, or feel satisfied with your partner. ...

VIDEO: Robin explains the key differences between mediation and collaborative divorce. Spoiler alert: Mediation is usually your best option.

VIDEO: Robin walks you through the 3 primary methods of keeping your family home in a divorce situation.

VIDEO: Robin helps you push through the 5 top fears that can stall your divorce progress.

VIDEO: Robin clears up misunderstandings about the difference between your divorce settlement and your divorce

VIDEO: 5 key reasons for gray divorce … and tips for how to prevent it.

VIDEO: Robin helps you pick yourself up and settle a divorce that you didn’t want.

VIDEO: Robin shares 5 professional tips for drafting custody agreements with a difficult ex.

VIDEO: Robin shows you how to choose the best type of mediator for your case.

VIDEO: Robin provides 7 excellent tips to keep things smooth for your kids while you are divorcing.

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Robin Graine has been helping parents guide their children through divorce for over 20 years. She has earned the ...

VIDEO: Robin lays out for you, in clear language, how money and assets are split up in a divorce.

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If you are considering a divorce, you are probably wondering: “How will my assets be divided?”

Most people ...

VIDEO: 5 easy steps to making good decisions.

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As a father, you may be lying awake at night wondering “Is the court going to be prejudiced against me, when it ...

VIDEO: Robin walks you through the 7 key factors to focus on when choosing a mediator.

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Divorce courts are not biased against men in 50/50 custody situations. Instead, they are looking for a particular ...

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Choose a mediator you can trust with years of experience and an abundance of knowledge.

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In this blog I will show you how to make a good decision in 5 easy steps.

TUNE INTO YOUR GUT. What is your ...

VIDEO: Find out with the 7 essential elements to a happy marriage.

VIDEO: Divorce is tough enough. Settlement should be streamlined.

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There are 4 primary reasons why older couples are getting divorced.

Seeking relief from boredom is a big cause ...

VIDEO: Robin gives step by step instructions on how to modify child support after you are divorced.

Here are the step-by-step instructions you need to know to modify your child support post-divorce in Virginia.

VIDEO: Robin walks you through her efficient 4-part divorce process to get an inexpensive and peaceful divorce in Virginia.

VIDEO: Robin lists the criteria that courts look for to meet the requirements of “living separate and apart” for a Virginia divorce.

VIDEO: Robin explains the procedure and methodology of her efficient and fair mediation process.

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I recently answered a question on Quora (a popular question and answer site):What is the brutal truth about life ...

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When parents get divorced, kids don’t count the days or hours in the custody schedule. Instead, they often worry ...

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When making custody determinations, judges and child experts usually prefer a shared parenting arrangement over ...

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Your divorce may impact your children in a variety of ways. That impact depends on your children's emotional make-up ...

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There has been a great deal of research demonstrating that high quality daycare is beneficial to children's emotional ...

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No one has it easy as a marriage comes to an end.  But things become even more complicated – and the potential ...

VIDEO: The 3 most important factors if you are considering divorce and need alimony.

VIDEO: In this video, I share my 3-step process to determine Is My Marriage Over?

VIDEO: In this video, I share 7 situations that usually spell the end of your marriage.

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Virginia Code
Virginia statutory law speaks generally of the criteria that a judge must consider when deciding an ...

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There is no easy way to tell your children about divorce. Fortunately, there are some very good tips to help you ...

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Months of quarantine under the current stay-at-home orders will test the strongest of relationships—some people ...

VIDEO: In this video, I tell you what divorce costs if you go the attorney route versus hiring a mediator. I also provide tips to keep your costs down. ...

VIDEO: In this video, I provide everything you need to know about child-related tax benefits and how they are split up between divorced parents.

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In a Virginia Divorce, Judges Only Divide Marital Assets Acquired Before Separation
In a Virginia divorce, ...

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Dividing and distributing assets in a Virginia divorce is a four-step process:

Identify and determine ...

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In a Virginia Divorce, Judges Only Divide Marital Assets Acquired Before Separation
In a Virginia divorce, ...

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There is no guarantee of alimony in a Virginia divorce. There are rules of thumb — but no hard and fast ...

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Parenting is a one-shot deal. And when it comes to divorce or separation, it is rarely going to be a super ...

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Contemplating divorce and unsure how to proceed? It's only natural to feel nervous about finding the right ...

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In a Virginia divorce, there must always be grounds for divorce. In a "no-fault" divorce, those grounds ...

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Mediation is a confidential settlement process in which a trained, neutral settlement expert — the “mediator” ...

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When families break apart in a divorce, many parents do not know where to turn to get help.  Divorce lawyer? ...

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Starting Jan 1, 2019, the long-standing tax rules associated with alimony have significantly changed, and ...

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When a marriage comes to an end, people are often so deeply hurt that they feel they will never be able to forgive ...

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A Marital Settlement Agreement and MSA is a contract between a married couple that sets out the terms of ...

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How Do Virginia Courts & Mediators View Equitable Distribution When a Husband and Wife Commingle Separate (Non-Marital) ...

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Divorce is a shock to the system even if getting divorced was your idea. When it finally becomes a reality that ...

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Writing good Divorce Settlement Agreements—particularly when children are involved—blends two divergent, ...

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People get divorced for so many reasons -- feeling alone in the marriage, infidelity, loss of intimacy and companionship, financial ...

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It Happens Fast
When you are negotiating the custody & visitation portion of your Divorce Settlement ...

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THE DEFINITION of EQUITABLE DISTRIBUTION – NOT 50%/50%

Equitable Distribution is the legal term for how judges, ...

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If you model good communication with your spouse during a divorce, it can be a helpful lesson to your children. It will help them learn ...

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As the 37 million people who were hacked on Ashley Madison in 2015 can attest, extra marital affairs are rampant. A study published ...

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Graine Mediation is pleased to introduce Terri R. Adams, MSW, LCSW, BCD, as our guest blogger this week. Ms. Adams is in private practice ...

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Most people in relationships have felt, at one time or another, a lack of communication. A common gender trope has a woman griping ...

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Day in and day out, I deal with people who are suffering from broken hearts. It is incredibly sad. At the same time, however, I view ...

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You're looking for the signs he will change -- but thinking you can change your partner is a classic pitfall in many marriages. Though ...

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You don't have to go through war to end up with the terrifying and extraordinarily discerning symptoms of PTSD. A divorce -- especially ...

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Is he cheating?  What are the signs? There are five factors that seem to have the greatest influence over whether a spouse will cheat. ...

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Torn between mediation vs litigation? If you are considering divorce, and children are involved, mediation is usually the best dispute ...

Every divorcing parent has heard the same thing: You have to learn to get along with your ex… for the sake of the kids. Of course, that’s easy for ...

By Guest Blogger, Angelique Ayala

Everyone plans to retire. Most would like to retire sooner rather than later but, unfortunately, that doesn’t always ...

Having a preschool aged child is a lot of work. Getting divorced when you have a preschooler presents even more challenges. This article will help parents ...

For many individuals, getting divorced forces them to dive deep into the world of personal finance . . . sometimes kicking and screaming. It is a necessary ...

When you are working on your child custody plans, it is important to know that virtually all experts agree that children do best when:

(a) their parents ...

When valuing a small or family-owned business in a Virginia divorce, parties need to be aware of the concept of “goodwill.” Goodwill is divided into ...

Settling a divorce case in Virginia, where one of the parties owns a business, can be extremely challenging. Businesses are considered “property” ...

6 Tips for Financial Success After Divorce
Experienced Certified Divorce Financial Analyst® (CDFA) Provides Advice
Divorce is difficult for ...

For purposes of calculating Child Support in a Virginia divorce, gross income is what is used (not net, not AGI, nor anything else). The term “gross ...

The Internal Revenue Code has changed as of December 22, 2017. For up-to-date information about child related tax benefits, see this video. 

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As part of your tax planning, you need to consider an expected change in your filing status for this year or next. The frequently overlooked strategy ...

When a couple with children divorces, they need to consider how college expenses will now be planned. Will their original thinking about paying for college ...

In Virginia, property that is owned pre-marriage is known as “separate property”. Separate property may consist of:

tangible assets (e.g. automobiles, ...

For many years, the courts and bar have been trying to figure out the best way to equitably (i.e. “fairly”) divide and distribute the equity value ...

It is so easy to continue being angry or in a constant state of irritation with your ex-spouse . . . but, if you have a Shared Physical Custody Arrangement, ...

Navigating any divorce can very quickly become complicated and tricky.  For parents with an autistic child, this added complication can become particularly ...

Ex-spouses are often entitled to receive social security in the amount of 50% of the value of their living ex-spouse’s benefits.

You can begin receiving ...

Parents often are confused about what their child support obligation is supposed to cover.   Like many things that involve the legal system, there is ...

Spending uninterrupted time with your child or children after a divorce can be the only thing that feels right in the aftermath of  a divorce.  Though ...