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Enjoy Robin’s Divorce Mediation Blog. Here she shares her knowledge and insights on topics related to Divorce Mediation Practice & Procedure, Child & Spousal Support, Child Custody and Co-parenting, Divorce Finance & Taxation, and Relationships & Emotions as they relate to families, divorce, dating and Relationship Coaching.

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Robin Graine, JD, CDFA™


Emotional Phases of Divorce

Emotional Phases of Divorce

Divorce is a shock to the system. Even if getting divorced is your idea, when it finally becomes a reality you may find yourself even more unbalanced ...

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Divorce Stress – 8 Tips for Feeling Better

Divorce Stress – 8 Tips for Feeling Better

Make sure you pay attention to your emotional needs.

Be aware of sad or angry moods that don’t seem to go away. Though there will be ups and ...

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Child Custody: Your Preschooler in a Divorce

Child Custody: Your Preschooler in a Divorce

Having a preschool aged child is a lot of work. Getting divorced when you have a preschooler presents even more challenges. This article will help parents ...

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Child Custody – Keys to Success

Child Custody – Keys to Success

When you are working on your child custody plans, it is important to know that virtually all experts agree that children do best when:

(a) their parents ...

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Business Valuation & Division in a VA Divorce

Business Valuation & Division in a VA Divorce

Settling a divorce case in Virginia, where one of the parties owns a business, can be extremely challenging. Businesses are considered “property” ...

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How to Choose a Good Divorce Mediator

How to Choose a Good Divorce Mediator

The ending of a marriage is always a stressful time with lots of uncertainties. If you have decided that staying out of the fray of negative, time consuming, ...

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The Number One Predictor of Divorce

The Number One Predictor of Divorce

       Dr. John Gottman, PhD, a 40-year veteran of marriage and divorce studies, co-founder of the Gottman Institute, and author of The Seven Principles ...

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6 Tips for Financial Success After Divorce

6 Tips for Financial Success After Divorce

6 Tips for Financial Success After Divorce
Experienced Certified Divorce Financial Analyst™ (CDFA) Provides Advice
          Divorce is difficult ...

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Dependent Exemptions, Child Custody & Divorce

Dependent Exemptions, Child Custody & Divorce

Parents getting divorced often want to know "who has the rightful claim to our child for income tax purposes?"  "Who gets the child exemption?" (which ...

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What Makes Divorce Mediation Work?

What Makes Divorce Mediation Work?

Mediation is a confidential settlement process in which a trained, neutral settlement expert – the “mediator” — facilitates communication between ...

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Tax-timing a Marriage or Divorce

Tax-timing a Marriage or Divorce

As part of your tax planning, you need to consider an expected change in your filing status for this year or next. The frequently overlooked strategy ...

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Tax Effects of Spousal Support (Alimony)

Tax Effects of Spousal Support (Alimony)

ALIMONY IS TAX DEDUCTIBLE BY THE PAYER AND IS CONSIDERED TAXABLE INCOME TO THE RECIPIENT. Paying spousal support (aka alimony) is one of the best tax ...

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How Does Spousal Support Work in Virginia?

How Does Spousal Support Work in Virginia?

Alimony is a creature of both State and Federal Law: Spousal support, also known as alimony, is governed by a combination of state and Federal law. In ...

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Mine, Yours, and Ours in a Virginia Divorce

Mine, Yours, and Ours in a Virginia Divorce

How Do Virginia Courts & Mediators View Equitable Distribution When a Husband and Wife Commingle Separate (Non-Marital) and Marital Property?
In ...

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Soothing a Broken Heart Through Desire

Soothing a Broken Heart Through Desire

Day in and day out, I deal with people who are suffering from broken hearts.  It is incredibly sad.  At the same time, however, I view these heartsick, ...

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How To Tell Your Children About Divorce

How To Tell Your Children About Divorce

There is no easy way to tell your children about divorce.  At some time, though, most divorcing parents need to have this uncomfortable and heartbreaking ...

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Some Things Never Change

Some Things Never Change

Thinking you can change your partner is a classic pitfall in many marriages. Though you can sometimes learn to deal with the foibles and flaws of your ...

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Can an Ugly Divorce Cause PTSD?

Can an Ugly Divorce Cause PTSD?

There is a wonderful article by Lisa Arends in the Huffington Post called "PTSD After Divorce." In it, she describes her own reaction to her divorce as ...

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Navigating Divorce with an Autistic Child

Navigating Divorce with an Autistic Child

Navigating any divorce can very quickly become complicated and tricky.  For parents with an autistic child, this added complication can become particularly ...

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Why Marriages Fail

Why Marriages Fail

The Reasons that Modern Marriages Fail

Marriages fail at an alarming rate in our culture for three primary reasons:

Most people rate personal ...

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What is the Purpose of Child Support?

What is the Purpose of Child Support?

Parents often are confused about what their child support obligation is supposed to cover.   Like many things that involve the legal system, there is ...

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What is

What is "Equitable distribution of property"?

THE DEFINITION of EQUITABLE DISTRIBUTION – NOT 50%/50%

Equitable Distribution is the legal term for how judges, in Virginia (and 39 other states), ...

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