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Enjoy Robin’s Divorce Mediation Blog. Here she shares her knowledge and insights on topics related to divorce mediation, child support, alimony, child custody, co parenting, property settlement agreements, Virginia divorce laws, divorce finance and taxation and marital coaching.

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Robin Graine, JD, CDFA®


Living Separate and Apart – Virginia Divorce

VIDEO: Robin lists the criteria that courts look for to meet the requirements of “living separate and apart” for a Virginia divorce.

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How Do Mediators Settle Divorces?

VIDEO: Robin explains the procedure and methodology of her efficient and fair mediation process.
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The Brutal Truth About Life After Marriage

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I recently answered a question on Quora (a popular question and answer site):What is the brutal truth about life ...

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What Do Kids Want When Their Parent's Get Divorced?

When parents get divorced, kids don’t count the days or hours in the custody schedule. Instead, they often worry about all of kinds of things most adults ...

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Is Shared Custody Best for My Child?

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When making custody determinations, judges and child experts usually prefer a shared parenting arrangement over ...

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6 Positive Impacts of Divorce on Children

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Your divorce may impact your children in a variety of ways. That impact depends on your children's emotional make-up ...

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When Divorce Forces the Stay at Home Mom to Choose Daycare

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There has been a great deal of research demonstrating that high quality daycare is beneficial to children's emotional ...

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What the Judge Sees: Child Custody and Visitation

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No one has it easy as a marriage comes to an end.  But things become even more complicated – and the potential ...

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How Does Alimony Work?

VIDEO: The 3 most important factors if you are considering divorce and need alimony.

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Is My Marriage Over?

VIDEO: In this video, I share my 3-step process to determine Is My Marriage Over?

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When to Get a Divorce?

VIDEO: In this video, I share 7 situations that usually spell the end of your marriage.

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How Does Spousal Support Work in Virginia?

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Virginia Code
Virginia statutory law speaks generally of the criteria that a judge must consider when deciding an ...

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How To Tell Your Children About Divorce

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There is no easy way to tell your children about divorce. Fortunately, there are some very good tips to help you ...

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How Much Does Divorce Cost?

VIDEO: In this video, I tell you what divorce costs if you go the attorney route versus hiring a mediator. I also provide tips to keep your costs down. ...

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Who Claims Children on Taxes After Divorce?

VIDEO: In this video, I provide everything you need to know about child-related tax benefits and how they are split up between divorced parents.

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How are Assets Divided in Divorce

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Dividing and distributing assets in a Virginia divorce is a four-step process:

Identify and determine ...

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How Does Alimony Work?

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There is no guarantee of alimony in a Virginia divorce. There are rules of thumb — but no hard and fast ...

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How to Choose a Good Divorce Mediator

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Contemplating divorce and unsure how to proceed? It's only natural to feel nervous about finding the right ...

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What Makes Divorce Mediation Work?

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Mediation is a confidential settlement process in which a trained, neutral settlement expert — the “mediator” ...

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Mine, Yours, and Ours in a Virginia Divorce

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How Do Virginia Courts & Mediators View Equitable Distribution When a Husband and Wife Commingle Separate (Non-Marital) ...

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Six Phases of Divorce Emotions

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Divorce is a shock to the system even if getting divorced was your idea. When it finally becomes a reality that ...

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Divorce Pain and Stress - 8 Tips for Feeling Better

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People get divorced for so many reasons -- feeling alone in the marriage, infidelity, loss of intimacy and companionship, financial ...

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What is "Equitable distribution of property"?

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THE DEFINITION of EQUITABLE DISTRIBUTION – NOT 50%/50%

Equitable Distribution is the legal term for how judges, ...

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Signs of Divorce: The Number One Predictor

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Dr. John Gottman, PhD, a 40-year veteran of marriage and divorce studies, co-founder of the Gottman Institute, and author of The Seven ...

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Extra Marital Affair Ruining Your Marriage?

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As the 37 million people who were hacked on Ashley Madison in 2015 can attest, extra marital affairs are rampant. A study published ...

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Home Again? Better Known as “Failure to Launch”

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Graine Mediation is pleased to introduce Terri R. Adams, MSW, LCSW, BCD, as our guest blogger this week. Ms. Adams is in private practice ...

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Moving on After Divorce

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Day in and day out, I deal with people who are suffering from broken hearts. It is incredibly sad. At the same time, however, I view ...

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Signs He Will Change

1 min 40 sec read
You're looking for the signs he will change -- but thinking you can change your partner is a classic pitfall in many marriages. Though ...

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Why Marriages Fail

4 min 20 sec read
These three truths are the primary sad seeds of why marriages fail at such an alarming rate in our culture:

Most people rate personal ...

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Can an Ugly Divorce Cause PTSD?

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You don't have to go through war to end up with the terrifying and extraordinarily discerning symptoms of PTSD. A divorce -- especially ...

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6 Methods to Effectively Co-Parent After a Nasty Divorce

Every divorcing parent has heard the same thing: You have to learn to get along with your ex… for the sake of the kids. Of course, that’s easy for ...

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Divorce & Social Security: What You Need to Know

By Guest Blogger, Angelique Ayala

Everyone plans to retire. Most would like to retire sooner rather than later but, unfortunately, that doesn’t always ...

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Child Custody: Your Preschooler in a Divorce

Having a preschool aged child is a lot of work. Getting divorced when you have a preschooler presents even more challenges. This article will help parents ...

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Child Custody – Keys to Success

When you are working on your child custody plans, it is important to know that virtually all experts agree that children do best when:

(a) their parents ...

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What is Business Goodwill in a Virginia Divorce?

When valuing a small or family-owned business in a Virginia divorce, parties need to be aware of the concept of “goodwill.” Goodwill is divided into ...

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Business Valuation & Division in a VA Divorce

Settling a divorce case in Virginia, where one of the parties owns a business, can be extremely challenging. Businesses are considered “property” ...

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6 Tips for Financial Success After Divorce

6 Tips for Financial Success After Divorce
Experienced Certified Divorce Financial Analyst® (CDFA) Provides Advice
Divorce is difficult for ...

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Child Support Income Determinations - Virginia Divorce

For purposes of calculating Child Support in a Virginia divorce, gross income is what is used (not net, not AGI, nor anything else). The term “gross ...

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Dependent Exemptions, Child Custody & Divorce

The Internal Revenue Code has changed as of December 22, 2017. For up-to-date information about child related tax benefits, see this video. 

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Tax-timing a Marriage or Divorce

As part of your tax planning, you need to consider an expected change in your filing status for this year or next. The frequently overlooked strategy ...

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Key College Planning Questions for Divorcing Parents

When a couple with children divorces, they need to consider how college expenses will now be planned. Will their original thinking about paying for college ...

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Navigating Divorce with an Autistic Child

Navigating any divorce can very quickly become complicated and tricky.  For parents with an autistic child, this added complication can become particularly ...

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What is the Purpose of Child Support?

Parents often are confused about what their child support obligation is supposed to cover.   Like many things that involve the legal system, there is ...

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The Three Golden Rules for Visitation After Divorce

Spending uninterrupted time with your child or children after a divorce can be the only thing that feels right in the aftermath of  a divorce.  Though ...

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