6 Methods to Effectively Co-Parent After a Nasty Divorce

6 Methods to Effectively Co-Parent After a Nasty Divorce

Every divorcing parent has heard the same thing: You have to learn to get along with your ex… for the sake of the kids. Of course, that’s easy for them to say. They don’t have to deal with your crazy/spiteful/narcissistic ex.

In these days of shared child custody, also known as co-parenting, parents often end up having to communicate more about their kids after divorce than they ever did while they were married.

9 Key Questions To Ask Before Negotiating Child Custody In Your Divorce

9 Key Questions To Ask Before Negotiating Child Custody In Your Divorce

Parenting is a one-shot deal. As a 10-year veteran of divorce, my former husband and I have made it our goal to keep our children the focus, despite our own differences and troubles. When we negotiated our divorce settlement, we keyed-in on the fact that we only had one chance to get it right in raising our son (who was then 9 years old) and daughter (who was then 7 years old).

The goal, in divorce, should always be to make the situation better – or at least reasonably comfortable -- for everyone in the family.

How Does Divorce and Shared Custody Impact Children?

How Does Divorce and Shared Custody Impact Children?

Just like all major life events, divorce and shared (not necessarily 50/50) custody affects children differently. The impact depends on the child’s emotional make-up, resiliency, life experiences (age-effected) and how the people around them react to and comfort them through what is almost always a very saddening experience (even when the marriage was terrible).

There is no doubt that divorce, and splitting up a child’s custody, will have a great effect on that child in many ways.