Some Things Never Change

Some Things Never Change

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You're looking for the signs he will change - but thinking you can change your partner is a classic pitfall in many marriages. Though you can sometimes learn to deal with the foibles and flaws of your partner, some disagreeable habits and personality traits of your spouse can become too much to take, and you wind up in the divorce mediator or lawyer’s office.

Why Marriages Fail

Why Marriages Fail

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These three truths are the primary sad seeds of why marriages fail at an alarming rate in our culture and the disaster for traditional family life.

Most people rate personal happiness on a higher scale then they do the preservation of their marriage;
Many men and women are unwilling to appreciate their spouses for who they are and how their spouse’s basic gender differences are (most probably) permanent fixtures in their spouse’s personality;
Our culture’s focus on individuality and the belief, by many, that we can have full lives, even absent living within a traditional family structure.

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9 Key Questions To Ask Before Negotiating Child Custody In Your Divorce

9 Key Questions To Ask Before Negotiating Child Custody In Your Divorce

Parenting is a one-shot deal. As a 10-year veteran of divorce, my former husband and I have made it our goal to keep our children the focus, despite our own differences and troubles. When we negotiated our divorce settlement, we keyed-in on the fact that we only had one chance to get it right in raising our son (who was then 9 years old) and daughter (who was then 7 years old).

The goal, in divorce, should always be to make the situation better – or at least reasonably comfortable -- for everyone in the family.

What is the Purpose of Child Support?

What is the Purpose of Child Support?

Parents often are confused about what their child support obligation is supposed to cover.   Like many things that involve the legal system, there is no clear or definitive answer to this question.  There is agreement, however, among divorce professionals, that child support should cover more than just the bare necessities.