What Do Kids Want When Their Parent’s Get Divorced?

When parents get divorced, kids don’t count the days or hours in the custody schedule. Instead, they often worry about all of kinds of things most adults never even consider. For example:

Who will kiss my pet turtle goodnight when I am at Dad’s house?
How will Santa know where I am sleeping on Christmas?
Can I paint my new bedroom any color I want?

Once your children have their “logistical and technical” questions answered, what they really want, when their parents get divorced, is this:

Kids want to feel unconditional love from both parents.

How Does Spousal Support Work in Virginia?

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Virginia Code

Virginia statutory law speaks generally of the criteria that a judge must consider when deciding an alimony case. However, the listed criteria give almost no guidance to the courts when making a determination as to “how much” spousal support is to be paid and “for how long” spousal support should last.

How are Assets Divided in Divorce

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Dividing and distributing assets in a Virginia divorce is a four-step process:

Identify and determine ownership of the asset;
Determine the value of the asset;
Classify the asset (does it belong to the marriage or to an individual spouse); and
Reach mutual agreement on how the asset will be divided using the law as a guideline, being mindful of tax implications, and assessing fairness considering a variety of factors, both financial and non-financial.

What Makes Divorce Mediation Work?

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Mediation is a confidential settlement process in which a trained, neutral settlement expert — the “mediator” — facilitates communication between the parties. Without deciding the issues or imposing a solution on the parties, the mediator enables them to better understand each other’s positions and to reach a mutually agreeable resolution to their disputes.

Divorce Mediation as Affordable Alternative to Divorce Lawyer Settlements

GRAINE MEDIATION – DIVORCE SETTLEMENT MEDIATOR – AFFORDABLE NORTHERN VA DIVORCE LAWYER ALTERNATIVE. Simply put, mediation is much less expensive than litigation. There is only one mediator fee as opposed to two attorney fees. The hourly fees, too, are often less than attorneys fees. Mediators focus on helping you SETTLE — not on expensive divorce strategies and court appearances.

Signs He Will Change

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You're looking for the signs he will change -- but thinking you can change your partner is a classic pitfall in many marriages. Though you can sometimes learn to deal with the foibles and flaws of your partner, some disagreeable habits and personality traits of your spouse can become too much to take, and you wind up in the divorce mediator or lawyer’s office.

Why Marriages Fail

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These three truths are the primary sad seeds of why marriages fail at such an alarming rate in our culture:

Most people rate personal happiness on a higher scale then they do the preservation of their marriage;
Many men and women are unwilling to appreciate their spouses for who they are and how their spouse’s basic gender differences are (most probably) permanent fixtures in their spouse’s personality;
Our culture’s focus on individuality and the belief, by many, that we can have full lives, even absent living within a traditional family structure.

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