The ending of a marriage is always a stressful time with lots of uncertainties. If you have decided that staying out of the fray of negative, time consuming, and often cost prohibitive litigation is the right choice for you, you will likely be on the hunt for a good divorce mediator.
Mediation is a confidential settlement process in which a trained, neutral settlement expert – the “mediator” — facilitates communication between the parties. Without deciding the issues or imposing a solution on the parties, the mediator enables them to better understand each other’s positions and to reach mutually agreeable resolution to their disputes.
When families break apart in a divorce, many parents do not know where to turn to get help. Divorce lawyer? Divorce mediator? What is best when it comes to planning for children when their parents are getting a divorce? Here is some information to help you choose what route to take:
Parents must decide whether they want the fate of their children’s upbringing to be made within the family unit (by mom and dad) or by a judge.
As 37 million recently hacked people on Ashley Madison can attest, adultery is rampant. What is going on? From what I have seen and heard in my divorce mediation private practice, parents are so stressed out that they forget to nurture one another. They put “adult care” at the bottom of their list, like a chore to be done when there is time.
Graine Mediation is pleased to introduce Terri R. Adams, MSW, LCSW, BCD, as our guest blogger this week. Ms. Adams is in private practice in Fairfax, Virginia with the Fairfax Counseling Group. http://fairfaxcounselinggroup.com Ms. Adams has helped many parents of young adults to successfully achieve a stronger relationship with their young adult children and recapture their own future.
Just like all major life events, divorce and shared (not necessarily 50/50) custody affects children differently. The impact depends on the child’s emotional make-up, resiliency, life experiences (age-effected) and how the people around them react to and comfort them through what is almost always a very saddening experience (even when the marriage was terrible).
There is no doubt that divorce, and splitting up a child’s custody, will have a great effect on that child in many ways.
Thinking you can change your partner is a classic pitfall in many marriages. Though you can sometimes learn to deal with the foibles and flaws of your partner, some disagreeable habits and personality traits of your spouse can become too much to take, and you wind up in the divorce mediator or lawyer’s office.
Mediation is Best for Building & Maintaining Relationships Between Non-Custodial Parents & Their Children
If you are posturing for, or in the middle of a custody dispute, try mediation. This is especially true if you are the parent who thinks he or she may end up as the non-residential parent (non-primary custodian). As a non-residential parent, your odds of building a strong and long-lasting relationship with your children -- by being a part of their lives while they are growing up -- is much greater if you opt for mediation over litigation.