How to Choose a Good Divorce Mediator

How to Choose a Good Divorce Mediator

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Contemplating divorce and unsure how to proceed? It's only natural to feel nervous about finding the right way to end a marriage- which is always a stressful time with lots of uncertainties. If you have decided that staying out of the fray of negative, time-consuming, and often cost prohibitive litigation is the right choice for you, you will likely be on the hunt for a good divorce mediator.

What Makes Divorce Mediation Work?

What Makes Divorce Mediation Work?

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Mediation is a confidential settlement process in which a trained, neutral settlement expert — the “mediator” — facilitates communication between the parties. Without deciding the issues or imposing a solution on the parties, the mediator enables them to better understand each other’s positions and to reach a mutually agreeable resolution to their disputes.

Child Custody Problems – Should I Use a Divorce Attorney or a Mediator?

Child Custody Problems –  Should I Use a Divorce Attorney or a Mediator?

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When families break apart in a divorce, many parents do not know where to turn to get help.  Divorce lawyer?  Divorce mediator?  What is best when it comes to planning for children when their parents are getting a divorce? Here is some information to help you choose what route to take:

Parents must decide whether they want the fate of their children’s upbringing to be made within the family unit (by mom and dad) or by a judge.

Divorce on adultery grounds? Don’t go to Court on it | Graine Mediation

Divorce on adultery grounds? Don’t go to Court on it | Graine Mediation

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As 37 million recently hacked people on Ashley Madison can attest, adultery is rampant. A study published in 2011 confirmed that one in five of the 1,000 people surveyed had cheated on their spouses. What is going on? From what I have seen and heard on divorce on adultery grounds in my divorce mediation private practice, parents are so stressed out that they forget to nurture one another.

Home Again? Better Known as “Failure to Launch”

Home Again?  Better Known as “Failure to Launch”

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Robin Graine, JD: A recent research from Zillow says that 28% of college-educated kids in their 20s live with their parents. This BBC article has showcased the stories of a number of youths in their 30s from different parts of the world that paints a picture of what it's like to be living with parents as an adult and how diverse the circumstances can be.

Some Things Never Change

Some Things Never Change

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You're looking for the signs he will change - but thinking you can change your partner is a classic pitfall in many marriages. Though you can sometimes learn to deal with the foibles and flaws of your partner, some disagreeable habits and personality traits of your spouse can become too much to take, and you wind up in the divorce mediator or lawyer’s office.

Mediation: Best for Building Relationships Between Non-Custodial Parents and Their Children

Mediation: Best for Building Relationships Between Non-Custodial Parents and Their Children

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Torn between mediation vs litigation? If you are posturing for a custody dispute, mediation is best for parents who may end up as non-residential parents. This is especially true if you are the parent who thinks he or she may end up as the non-residential parent (non-primary custodian). 

As a non-residential parent, your odds of building a strong and long-lasting relationship with your children -- by being a part of their lives while they are growing up --  is much greater if you opt for mediation over litigation.

How Does Divorce and Shared Custody Impact Children?

How Does Divorce and Shared Custody Impact Children?

Just like all major life events, divorce and shared (not necessarily 50/50) custody affects children differently. The impact depends on the child’s emotional make-up, resiliency, life experiences (age-effected) and how the people around them react to and comfort them through what is almost always a very saddening experience (even when the marriage was terrible).

There is no doubt that divorce, and splitting up a child’s custody, will have a great effect on that child in many ways.