Estimated Reading Time: 4 Minutes 40 seconds When families break apart in a divorce, many parents do not know where to turn to get help.  Divorce lawyer?  Divorce mediator?  What is best when it comes to planning for children when their parents are getting a divorce? Here is some information to help you choose what route to take: Parents must decide whether they want the fate of their children’s upbringing to be made within the family unit (by mom and dad) or by a judge.