What Do Kids Want When Their Parent’s Get Divorced?

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When parents get divorced, kids don’t count the days or hours in the custody schedule. Instead, they often worry about all of kinds of things most adults never even consider. For example:

Who will kiss my pet turtle goodnight when I am at Dad’s house?
How will Santa know where I am sleeping on Christmas?
Can I paint my new bedroom any color I want?

Once your children have their “logistical and technical” questions answered, what they really want, when their parents get divorced, is this:

Kids want to feel unconditional love from both parents.

When Divorce Forces the Stay at Home Mom to Choose Daycare

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There has been a great deal of research demonstrating that high quality daycare is beneficial to children's emotional and intellectual development.

1. Language and cognitive development: Studies have found that children in higher quality childcare tend to have better language and cognitive development during the first 4.5 years.

What the Judge Sees: Child Custody and Visitation

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No one has it easy as a marriage comes to an end.  But things become even more complicated – and the potential for immense emotional pain only grows – when a child is involved.

Our legal system has set up standards that remove the emotion from custody decisions.

9 Key Questions To Ask Before Negotiating Child Custody In Your Divorce

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Parenting is a one-shot deal. And when it comes to divorce or separation, it is rarely going to be a super positive event for your children. There are always opportunities to make the best of things, though, and that will be your job throughout the process.

Child Custody Problems – Should I Use a Divorce Attorney or a Mediator?

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When families break apart in a divorce, many parents do not know where to turn to get help.  Divorce lawyer?  Divorce mediator?  What is best when it comes to planning for children when their parents are getting a divorce? Here is some information to help you choose what route to take:

Parents must decide whether they want the fate of their children’s upbringing to be made within the family unit (by mom and dad) or by a judge.

Children in Divorce: What Experts Say You Can Teach Your Children

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If you model good communication with your spouse during a divorce, it can be a helpful lesson to your children. It will help them learn how to handle life's conflicts in the long run. Children in divorce do much better and are more secure when they feel their parents are managing "grown-up" life issues in a "grown-up" way.

Certified Divorce Financial Analyst™ Advice: – Your Kids and $!

For many individuals, getting divorced forces them to dive deep into the world of personal finance . . . sometimes kicking and screaming. It is a necessary part of everyday life, though, and everyone needs to have a decent understanding of money. As a divorce mediator with specialized credentials – I am Certified as a Divorce Financial Analyst® -- I spend a lot of time making sure that both parties to a divorce have the requisite financial knowledge to move forward with their lives as independents (not married).

Children, too, often get an unanticipated education in family finance when their parents get divorced.

Shared Physical Custody: Civility and Communication Are Key to Successful Co-Parenting

It is so easy to continue being angry or in a constant state of irritation with your ex-spouse . . . but, if you have a Shared Physical Custody Arrangement, that anger and irritation will eventually get in the way of successfully co-parenting your children.

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The Three Golden Rules for Visitation After Divorce

Spending uninterrupted time with your child or children after a divorce can be the only thing that feels right in the aftermath of  a divorce.  Though divorce is not recommended, it often wakes parents up to the idea that time with their children is precious and that their children's youth is fleeting.