What Makes Divorce Mediation Work?

Mediation is a confidential settlement process in which a trained, neutral settlement expert – the “mediator” — facilitates communication between the parties. Without deciding the issues or imposing a solution on the parties, the mediator enables them to better understand each other’s positions and to reach mutually agreeable resolution to their disputes.

At Graine Mediation, we focus on the following techniques and method to help our clients move quickly, but thoughtfully, through the settlement of their divorce matters . . . so that they can get on with the business of living their lives:

  • Focus on interests, not positions. We keep the focus on our clients’ needs, fears and desires and discourage the use of many strategical bargaining tactics.
  • Create options for mutual gain. We help our clients create options for mutual gain and think creatively about various settlement options.
  • Use objective facts and limit speculation. We encourage the use of up to date and objective facts and information and prefer educated projections and positive action over speculation.
  • Information-based decision making. We provide clients with important information with regard to the law, the legal culture, tax, finance and the effect of divorce on children. Understanding this type of information really helps clients put their issues into perspective and make good decisions.
  • Neutral language. We neutralize language and help parties learn how not to “push buttons” unnecessarily. Blame and negative judgments are usually not productive and do not, therefore, play much of a role in mediation.
  • Step in the other party’s shoes. We inspire clients to view issues from the other party’s perspective.

Getting divorced is tough. The settlement process should not make it any worse. At Graine Mediation, we will do all we can to help you get through this stage in your life without making things any more complicated, difficult or expensive than necessary to get the job done. Contact Graine Mediation today to see how we can help you.